Many singles have doubts about their partner before the proposal--yet get engaged anyway--and carry their doubts all the way to their wedding day. A new research study recommends that such premarital doubts should be taken very seriously. Your doubts may be warning lights or stop lights for you to postpone or call off the wedding. Does he drink too much? Is she never happy? Does the other not share your deepest values? These are just some of the hundreds of differences that can, and should, raise doubts about the decision to marry. On the other hand, your doubts may reflect your own low self-worth or abandonment fears. If so, now is a good time to find as much healing as possible before the wedding day.
Don't keep your doubts to yourself. Talk about them with your partner (use your judgment here, nit- picky doubts such as his height or her bust size could leave your partner hurting for years. But do talk with someone about even trivial doubts, because it's possible they aren't trivial after all). Talk with trusted loved ones as well as a neutral party like a marriage therapist. Consider your doubts to be helpful information to better understand yourself and your relationship. Helpful changes and better choices can come out of such honest soul-searching. Read the study here, Cold Feet May Predict Divorce:
http://news.yahoo.com/cold-feet-may-predict-divorce-151109899.html
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